Recently I read an article about a woman who was proud of her son graduating with a very distinguished honor. A proud mother stood along side her child, the pride she felt burst through. You could feel her joy through the words and pictures.
What of ourselves? As mothers, do we foster the same drive for high goals? If we do, is it appropriate?
As women I have found that we are driven at times by some questionable motives. We want ours to be the best, nothing is wrong with wanting to be the best-when it is righteously motivated. The Holy Qur'an Surah 5:49 reads "So vie one with another in virtuous deeds. To Allah you will all return, so He will inform you of that wherein you differed."
The difference between what we want for our children and what we desire for ourselves should not vary to any great degree. The goals should, at the least compliment the efforts of the children and the efforts of the parent.
Take for instance the obvious academics. Before we harshly examine our child's performance in school, are we examining our own at home or at work? Are we asking them to obtain goals that if we were in the same shoes we would not be of the will or mindset to accomplish ourselves? Some people accuse that behavior of trying to live out our dreams through our children, others categorize it as being hypocritical while others still say it is making an effort to keep our children from making the same mistake. What ever your choice for categorizing it, is it realistic? Is it possible? Better yet could you do it? Did you do it? Moreover, why does it have to be done?
Let's be cautious about what we push our children to do to be seen of men.
Grant it, we do want to make little gods, however we don't want them to repeat our mistakes or make bigger ones from being misguided and trying to live out our unfulfilled dreams.
What of ourselves? As mothers, do we foster the same drive for high goals? If we do, is it appropriate?
As women I have found that we are driven at times by some questionable motives. We want ours to be the best, nothing is wrong with wanting to be the best-when it is righteously motivated. The Holy Qur'an Surah 5:49 reads "So vie one with another in virtuous deeds. To Allah you will all return, so He will inform you of that wherein you differed."
The difference between what we want for our children and what we desire for ourselves should not vary to any great degree. The goals should, at the least compliment the efforts of the children and the efforts of the parent.
Take for instance the obvious academics. Before we harshly examine our child's performance in school, are we examining our own at home or at work? Are we asking them to obtain goals that if we were in the same shoes we would not be of the will or mindset to accomplish ourselves? Some people accuse that behavior of trying to live out our dreams through our children, others categorize it as being hypocritical while others still say it is making an effort to keep our children from making the same mistake. What ever your choice for categorizing it, is it realistic? Is it possible? Better yet could you do it? Did you do it? Moreover, why does it have to be done?
Let's be cautious about what we push our children to do to be seen of men.
Grant it, we do want to make little gods, however we don't want them to repeat our mistakes or make bigger ones from being misguided and trying to live out our unfulfilled dreams.
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