The Struggle

You show me a person that says our youth are in good shape and I'll show you someone who is out of touch with the real condition of our children.

Why are our children having such a hard time and making so many bad choices. Some element of their child rearing has gone missing. Their sense of right and wrong has become blurred or in some cases it seems eliminated.
Who wants to hear, "You are doing a bad job with your child," or "Your baby needs 'home training.'" What parent wants to hear that said about their child or themselves. But in too many cases its true today.
What we don't talk about enough is the struggle that is going on in the homes. If a Mother does not have enough food for the children, her mind is not going to be focused on making sure he sits up straight in public places. If she is being put out of her home for the 'umpteenth' time, where is she drawing the mental focus or fortitude to do her job as a mother. Most women, especially Black women, we have come this far by faith, but our faith is waning. The moral structure is waning all around us, and that is making us weaker. Weaker parents, weaker teachers, weaker community leaders, weaker preachers, etc.
The struggle, at the very least a major part of it, is finding the strength to be the kind of parent that is on top of what our children's' moral and spiritual needs are.
Let me be clear, this is not a lecture from a Mother who thinks she has arrived, I care. I care about what is happening in our community and I care about women and their roles as mothers. We are great everything else, we are great lawyers, we are great accountants, doctors nurses, but what about being great Mothers?
I will say it again, the hand that rocks the cradle...rules the world. This power, this control rests in the most unassuming hands. It rests in our small, french manicured (some), dry and cracked (some), beautiful (all) hands. I simply believe that Mothers and parents should realize where our power lies, it lies in the natural beauty and work of Motherhood and parenting.

"The hand that rocks the cradle ... rules the world"

"The hand that rocks the cradle ... rules the world." It is about power, control and authority. Yes over other people but in particular yourself and the people that you are responsible for. This is a Mother's blog, under construction. It is for women and those men that find themselves faced with motherly responsibilities and who have mothers in their lives. Hopefully that covers everyone.

Whether a woman knows it or not, she has the power to effect/affect what happens today, tomorrow and many, many years beyond that in the way that she interacts with other people but more importantly the way she views her womanhood, "Goddess state" and above all, Motherhood.

Minister Farrakhan has made it clear to Black women, willing to listen, regarding who we are, we are that hand that is rocking the cradle of the person responsible for the death of Blair Holt, we are the hand that rocked the cradle of the drug dealer on our community corners. We are the hand that nurtured those fingers and hands that pull the triggers, sell the drugs, rape the girls, steal the cars and more.

The responsibility rests with us, mothers and their families. Nobody seems to want to frame it that way. Nobody wants to look at the problems that have come to head because of domestic failures, yes failures, of women.

For those of you that are trying to hold fast to, "What about the progress that women have made?" I say yes some progress has been made but look at the cost. We can solve the problems in our community by making sure we do our jobs in raising our children.